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How to Expect When You’re Expecting

How to Expect When You’re Expecting

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It is a difficult task to choose new beliefs. Our current belief system systematically filters out those things that do not fit in with our current known experience. this is why two people witnessing the same event may walk away with completely different perspectives and opinions on what transpired.They each come from a different understanding and can only perceive those things that conform to their known way of believing.

Consider the image of two nurses viewing a woman in unmedicated labor- the groaning, the motion, the animation:

Perhaps one sees the natural progression of labor unfolding and feels a motherly pride about the laboring woman’s strength. She offers encouraging words and expressions. She listens carefully to note certain sounds made by the woman, so she will be available to assist as transition begins. She is familiar with the pattern of labor sounds, and without checking cervical dilation, is ready when the woman says she wants to push. the doctor has already been called and is on his way. upon his arrival, he finds the baby’s head is crowning. He’s just in time to catch the new baby.

The other sees a woman in distress, experiencing unnecessary pain. She wants to help- she offers to call for an epidural, or see if the doctor will prescribe other pain relief. She listens to the continued sounds of discomfort and pain and wonders why a woman would choose this discomfort. When the woman says she is ready to push, the nurse tells her to wait. She calls for the doctor and checks that dilation is complete. once the doctor arrives, she instructs the woman on pushing and breathing, helping count through the contractions, reminding her to hold her breath as she pushes. Soon the doctor delivers the baby.

What is paramount to remember, and often missed when we react strongly to this type of example, is the laboring woman chose the care provider. we each choose who will care for us while we labor, based on our own beliefs about birth. this is one way the Law of Attraction manifests in birth. whether the support staff was attracted to the laboring woman or to the doctors they work with is irrelevant. What matters most is how we utilize this knowledge.

The intention we create for our baby’s birth will manifest only when we release the ideas and fears that are not in alignment with that intention. so it is necessary to discover what we expect to see in birth, and begin to change this belief to match our desired intention.

We can actively choose practitioners whose ideas mirror our desired birth- or we will choose by default, when we do not ask questions of our caregivers or of ourselves. and although we cannot directly choose the beliefs and attitudes of nursing staff, we can find exactly the support we desire, through our intention and expectation for our birth experience.

Each woman, based on her vision of an ideal birth, has the opportunity and responsibility to choose a practitioner who will provide care for her body and spirit, as she grows this new being and readies herself for motherhood. if there are ideas and expectations that do not align to the birthing woman’s vision, the time to address and correct the expectation or belief is NOW.

We will experience the birth we expect to experience.

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Inspirational Quotes for Difficult Times

Inspirational Quotes for Difficult Times

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We all face challenges in our life. We may have been affected by a natural disaster, lost a job or home due to the economic climate, experienced a health crisis, lost a loved one, or ended a relationship.

When life gets tough, I try to remember and live by these 3 inspirational quotes.

1. I’m Only given what I Can Handle

I know God will not give me anything I can’t handle. I just wish he didn’t trust me so much.- Mother Teresa

This belief helps keep me grounded and relatively calm when it feels like everything is falling apart. It changes the focus to something more constructive – that somehow this challenge will help me grow and will serve my life (and whomever I touch) in the long run. Otherwise it would be easy to fall into a victim mode of thinking, being and acting.

I adopted this belief in my teens and only recently read Mother Teresa’s quote. While the last bit strikes me as humorous, I wonder what she was feeling when she said it.

2. Looking for the Gift

In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.- Albert Einstein

When faced with a challenging situation, I try to remember to ask – what is great about this? (ie. use whatever words you want. Where is the good in this? what is the gem or learning? etc.)

This shifts my focus from looking at all the possible negative consequences that may or may not happen to looking at the gift in the situation. It empowers me to stay calm and look for solutions.

3. Will you be a Victim or a Victor?

In my darkest hours I had a choice to make. I could be a victim or a victor.- Wynonna Judd on the Oprah show

No matter what happens in our life, we get to choose how we respond. We get to choose our attitude. We can choose to feel sorry for ourselves and be a victim or we can choose to rise above.

Years ago I needed to have a dental procedure and I was feeling really stressed. Then it hit me – the procedure was going to happen regardless of how I felt. I could choose to feel anxious and mad that I even needed the procedure or I could choose to relax. I choose the latter and it made a huge difference.

No matter what challenge you are facing, you don’t need to figure it out alone. find someone you can talk to for both emotional and strategic support. as a species we are very resourceful and can find a way. you can too.

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Glendora superintendent embraces well-rounded education

Glendora superintendent embraces well-rounded education

1317017187 54 Glendora superintendent embraces well rounded educationRobert Voors is a believer in a well-rounded education.

Voors is the superintendent of the Glendora Unified School District. Evidence of his belief in embracing all life has to offer is given by the fact he is both a honorary life member in the Temple City Performing Arts Boosters and the founder and past president of the Glendora Wrestling Club.

His public schools experience includes stints as a teacher, assistant principal and principal. It also includes working in human resources and professional development.

He is proud of his district, a small but high-achieving one in one of the few areas of Southern California where demographics have been relatively unchanged over the past quarter-century.

Question: What is one thing about your school district that you wish the public knew more about?

Answer: I think the community is well-informed about our school district. But if they no longer have kids in school they may not have the ongoing personal contact they once did. The public sees our excellent results when scores are published in the paper and when schools or students receive accolades or awards. We have highly ranked scholars and programs, CIF champion athletic programs, award-winning music and drama programs, and incredible stuff going on throughout the district.

I do wish the the public could see all the “above and beyond” work that our teachers, principals, support staff, administrators and the Board of Education do on behalf of students. They work extra hours, days, evenings and vacations – and more often than not, at their own expense. They do it because they love the students and they take great pride in their work and their results.

Q: What is the most innovative idea that your district has come up with in the past year?

A: We initiated web-based Naviance, school-wide, at Glendora High. Naviance helps students establish meaningful post-secondary goals and connects those goals with course work and college planning activities. another central component is increased communication with parents around important decisions such as course planning, college admissions and post-secondary planning. Naviance also allows students and families to investigate, research, track and plan for the college admission process.

Q: What is one book you would recommend to your students, and why?

A: There are several, but I would choose one of three, depending upon how old the student is. They all talk about the possibilities students have in front of them and the ability they have to determine what their life will be like. They each reason that we must take responsibility for our place in life because it is more dependent on our actions and less on our circumstances.

For elementary school students, I recommend “Oh! The Places You’ll Go!” by Dr. Seuss. for middle school, I’d recommend “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens” by Sean Covey. for high school, it’s “Talent is Overrated” by Geoff Colvin. The premise of this book is that talent gets too much credit for a person’s success and lack of talent gets too much blame for failures. this book attempts to show the reader that exceptional performance is the product of specific, deliberate practice.

Q: What is the most positive impact the Internet has made on education? The most negative?

A: It provides numerous tools and information avenues for teachers and students and is current and relevant. Students have immediate access to nearly anything. this is a great advantage in the sense that the teacher no longer always has to be the “giver of knowledge.” Students can access virtually any information almost instantly. The Internet provides access to real-time world events, instant video, unlimited information and collaborative ventures world-wide.

On the negative side, students often think that information on the Internet is completely accurate. Helping them to become discerning consumers is one of the challenges for educators. Unfortunately, the Internet can be a dangerous place, depending on a student’s age, maturity and supervision. Chat room predators, inappropriate websites and inaccurate information can await those using the Internet.

Q: is the public school system better or worse than when you were a child? Why?

A: It’s better! Although I do recall great teachers and great times. perhaps different is a better assessment. In the past 30 years, of all the changes that have occurred, I think the pace of education, the focus on core academics and the explosion of technology are the most noticeable. Despite the criticism the national media often heaps on American schools, Gallop Poll results year after year support what we hear from our local communities. Despite their low overall opinion of the nation’s schools, they overwhelmingly rate their local schools as an a or B, which was not the case 25 years ago.

Q: Why is parental involvement important in a child’s education?

A: Parent involvement is critical – not only because of the engagement and connections it builds, but because education doesn’t just occur within the hours of the school day. Children are processing and assimilating information all day long. When parents take the time to talk about and reflect with their child regarding their school day and what they are learning it allows them to become more competent thinkers and communicators.

Q: What is your opinion of the No Child Left Behind Act? Are American public schools better or worse because of it, and why?

A: The No Child Left Behind Act had some positive aspects, such as helping ensure highly qualified staff are working with students, but it is flawed in many respects. Public schools are not opposed to accountability but NCLB is a “one size fits all” approach that doesn’t work. NCLB declares that every child should be proficient in language arts and math by 2014, regardless of the challenges they face such as being English learners, special education students, etc. There is no recognition in the scoring for improvement. Schools that are high achieving, highly desirable schools can be inappropriately labeled as ineffective.

I believe another result of NCLB is a “narrowing” of the curriculum. There is an old saying, “What gets rewarded will get accomplished.” with the importance of test scores and the spotlight on language arts and math, a greater focus has been placed in those areas because that is how schools are judged – often on the front page of the newspaper.

State Superintendent Tom Torlakson noted in a letter that he is working with the state Legislature to put in place the next generation of accountability systems to evaluate schools more appropriately and effectively, and urged the Obama administration to support state-determined accountability systems.

Q: In these tough economic times, how do you ensure kids get the kind of education they deserve?

A: Glendora continues to move forward in the face of fewer resources – nearly $10 million less in the past several years. The reality is that all members of the school community – teachers, classified staff, administrators, board members and parents – are doing multiple jobs, working harder and contributing more in the face of inadequate funding from the state.

The focus of a school district budget is directed at supporting student learning. whether it’s the teacher in the classroom, student or teacher supplies, classified staff who cut the lawns, fix the drinking fountains, answer the phones or serve the lunches, the administrator who organizes, supports and leads, or programs that help students, reduction or elimination in any of these areas affects students in the classroom, as does increasing class size or reducing the length of the school year. There’s an old oil filter commercial that used the axiom, “You can pay me now or pay me later.” We are in the same predicament. If the state continues to underfund education, we will pay the price in countless ways in future years.

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ROBERT VOORS BIO

District: Glendora Unified, consisting of 5 elementary schools, 2 middle schools, 1 high school and 1 alternative high school

Experience: Superintendent, Glendora Unified, since 2010; associate superintendent, Baldwin Park Unified, 2004-10; director of human resources, Baldwin Park Unified, 2001-2004; principal, Oak Avenue Intermediate School (Temple City), 1998-01; assistant principal, Temple City High, 1994-98; director of activities, Temple City High, 1992-94; teacher, Temple City High, 1982-92

Education: B.S. degree, Cal Poly Pomona; M.a. degree, Cal State Los Angeles; doctor of education, Azusa Pacific University; professional administrative credential, University of La Verne

Personal: Member Kiwanis International, Glendora Council PTA, Glendora Chamber of Commerce, Glendora Coordinating Council; has published several articles on education in professional journals

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What Are The Images On Your Blog Revealing About You?

 What Are The Images On Your Blog Revealing About You?

One of the powerful principles of persuasion used in marketing and addressed in Robert Cialdini’s classic book, “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion”, is the skill of using authority as a means to encourage people to say yes to your offer.

A way to implement this principle without even speaking to anyone is through the use of images.

Look at the images on the right side of this page.

Do they reveal that I’m an expert or a novice in my niche?

Am I a credible source?

Am I a lone ranger or do I have a team on my side that helps me empower and inspire others?

The images that you select as part of your platform reveal LOTS about who you are and what value you offer to people.

Photos, Pictures, Logos are packed with information that can activate a belief or emotion with a single glance.

What do the images on your blog say about you? Are you a credible source? Expert? Novice? Inspirational? Lone Ranger? Team Focused?

Choose images that reveal why people will benefit from your service.

What are your thoughts? Comment below.

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